Life and its peculiarity

Don’t cry because it’s over

September 20, 2007

 Smile because it happened. 

 

They had been together for over 8 years until a month ago, when she was convinced it was over.  She says she got tired of trying to make it work, of coaching an immature boyfriend, even worst than a young boy day-in, day-out for over half the span of their relationship. She had given him 3 long years to change his ways, it was extended to four – until she decided it was then or never.

 

 

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Pursuit of Happiness

July 15, 2007

Happiness is ephemeral, subject to the vagaries of everything from the weather to the size of your bank account.

No one in history has ever reached a permanent state called "happiness" and remained there.  Happiness comes and go. You can be happy this very moment but seconds later you can be frustrated, angered or so.  However, according to one author, there are some suggested ways to swerve off the path of anxiety, anger, frustration, and sadness into a state of happiness once or even several times throughout the day.  The following are some ways to get anyone started, but doesn't necessarily mean these are applicable to anyone.  Each one has the freedom to choose what works best for them.  To begin with:

 

1. Practice mindfulness. Be in the moment. Instead of worrying about tomorrow’s chores while you have dinner with your family, focus on the here and now – the food, the company, the conversation.

 

2. Laugh out loud. Just anticipating a happy, funny event can raise levels of endorphins and other pleasure-inducing hormones and lower production of stress hormones. Laugh your heart out, it won’t hurt.

 

3. Go to sleep.  With the advent of technologies and other buzz around, most people are becoming sleep-deprived mammals. Taking a daily nap or getting into bed at 8 p.m. one night with a good book – and turning the light out an hour later – can do more for your mood and outlook on life than any number of bubble baths or massages.

 

4. Hum along.  Music soothes more than the savage beast.  Studies find music activates parts of the brain that produces happiness - the same parts activated by food or sex.  Probably that's why digital players are invented for you to take your musix along with you.

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Life’s little surprises

June 14, 2007

 What comes to your mind when you hear the word ‘miracle?’ 

 

Perhaps there’s no doubt the first things that pop out our minds the moment we hear the word are the extraordinary events that are beyond our understanding or comprehension.  We call it a miracle when someone’s hit by a high-speed train yet still survives, with just bruises or some cuts in his skin, or nothing at all.  Or if a horse suddenly started talking.  Of course that’s being extreme, but those are what we often refer to as miracles.  The thing is that, we often miss the little miracles that we are given each day of our lives.

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The art of loving

June 4, 2007

For many of us, love begins with deep passion and romance.  This is what they call the first stage of love, the euphoric stage. You are together all the time, love everything about each other, see no faults in one another, and cannot seem to keep your hands off each other. As time goes by, you get to know one another.  The party manners disappear, and you begin to see that your loved one is not that perfect after all.  This is the point where, if you are expecting perfection in another person, you will become disappointed and disenchanted, and the relationship usually ends.  You cannot expect perfection in anyone, including yourself.  If you do, you are living your life in fantasy, and always be disappointed. (True indeed!)

 

Contemplate this for a moment:  You have just met the person of your dreams. You are attracted to this person physically; he/she has a great sense of humor, is affectionate, romantic, and a fabulous lover.  Your new partner does all the right things, pushes all the right buttons, and you have - as they often say - fallen head over heels in love.  (more…)

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Life and happiness

June 3, 2007

We convince ourselves that life would be better when we have more money on our bank accounts, a car, a house, a good job… then we get married, have a baby, then another… Then we get frustrated that the kids are not old enough and we'll be content when they are.

 

After that, we're frustrated that we have teenagers to deal with.  We feel we'll be certainly happy when they're out of that stage, then we get sad when they leave us to start their own life outside our home. 

 

We tell ourselves that our life would be complete when we get a nicer car, high paying job, bigger house, closet with prada or gucci or marks & spencer or D&G - other luxurious things, when we are able to go on nice vacation, or when we retire…

 

The truth is, there's no better time to be happy than right now.  If not, when?  Our life will always be filled with challenges.  It's better to admit this to ourselves and decide to be happy anyway.  It's always been said, "treasure every moment that you have and remember that time waits for no one."

 

So stop waiting…
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